Is it cheeky of me to use my blog as a brainstorming tool? It’s not the first time I’ve done it and I intend to abuse the privilege once again.
So in case you didn’t know, I’m getting married in September, hell yes, I think I said I never would, but I found out I couldn’t say no, so it’s on, Weddageddon.
All of a sudden I have a massive empathy with all my bridal customers. If you’ve never done this wedding thing, best advice – elope, never go back!
Dresses, cakes, photographers, rings and do-das aside, all I really care to talk about is the obvious, and most important thing might I add, your hair!
I’m in this situation, torn between up and down, I also have a workshop to write up on bridal hair – mainly aimed at MUAs and people hoping to either do hair for their friend’s wedding or become a wedding hairstylist (please feel free to book in for this).
One of my beautiful brides, Karen, pre-dress.
Let’s make my life easier and get you thinking about wedding hair before your trial, and i’ll try and have some revelations about my hair and my workshop.
So this is my list of considerations for bridal hair:
Do you want it up or down?
Do you have a weird thing about your ears?
Do you think your partner likes your hair in a particular way? (yes, let’s not forget this person that you love and are hoping to spend the rest of your life with)
Ok, so how will the weather be – is it outside? Hot, cold, humid, windy…?
Do you intend to head bang at any point (basically are you a bit of a party bride)?
What are you wearing? Do you want to be era appropriate to your dress, or just what you fancy?
How do you imagine yourself as a bride….?
Elegant old movie star/Hollywood glamour?
Princess Bride (yep like the movie) or 60s princess (tiaras or crowns desirable)?
slighty grungy (if I had a pound for every bride who said they’d like it to look messy and undone, sigh… I’ll come back to this later)?
Rock n roll/rockabilly/kustom kulture bride? (Hey well, you all probably have a Betty fringe anyway, but here’s some without)
sleek modern and stylish/minimalist…?
Think about who YOU are, you’re trying to be the best version of yourself, it’s not a costume party.
Do you have anything to put in your hair, veil, hair slide, hair band? This is best considered after the hair trial, but 9 times out of 10 I am given a hair slide and told to work with it.
Is that enough to consider?
No? Well here’s some issues that come up with bridal hair:
You’re looking at a fashion photoshoot for inspiration- the context of a photo does a lot for the hair and makeup, it looks great on the model, in the moment, in an appropriate setting, but this is not for a bride unless you generally dress like Robert Smith and in which case you are probably a pro at the teased look and don’t need my help anyway.
This looks beautiful here in the photo, but bride with wet-look hair strewn across her face?
You’re not a sleek hair person, you want it undone looking. There’s a thin line between looking a bit sexy undone and looking like you once had a nice hairstyle and then you’ve been pulled through a hedge backwards. There are limits to “undone” styles and they still need structure.
People will wonder why you went to a hairstylist with one hand…
You want to wear your hair all down, but you’re having an outdoor wedding by the sea. Best advice, get it out of your face, have the front pinned up and the back down, you don’t want it covering your face in photos, last minute tucking it behind your ears will look disappointing.
Clever lady on left having the last laugh I think…
I’m just going to put it out there- this….
…is a f*cking disaster. This is the dreaded bad-straightener-curls, I think this is generally accomplished by your aunt’s friend who does mobile hair cuts, and will do your wedding hair for £10+an invite to the wedding. Please do a hair trial, do not accept this from a person who claims to be a hairstylist, they are not.
Take a few pictures of styles that you like to your hair trial to show the stylist what kind of thing you’re after, but remember the results from your own hair might not be exactly as the hair models is, your hair will be a different colour, texture, thickness and length (also a different face shape, neck length and skin colouring) so slightly different results are highly likely.
Good luck with the decision making and don’t forget to have fun on your big day, your other half will love you whatever craziness you show up in. But, one last thing, always remember you have to look at these photos for the rest of your lives, fashions change and style is timeless, some high fashion decisions will later be regretted…